Sexuality isn’t the same as sex.  In the ‘ity’ lies a metaphysical and perhaps universal expressivity.  To me sexuality speaks to the inherent pleasure and discomfort of our drive towards creativity and connection.  Living systems are generative, organizing energy into vitality.  This generative force opposes entropy, the universal law by which energy disperses.  Sex is certainly an aspect of this creative power—effectively offering us the ability to continue life into future ‘generations’ among other benefits.  Yet, while the actions of sex are appropriately limited in their context and scope, the expression of sexuality can bravely permeate our lives and relationships.  We can engage with vitality by bringing pleasure and creativity to connecting with ourselves, each other, and our living world.  Such sexuality is not needy, doesn’t attempt to control others, and remains whole in the frame of desire.  I consider this to be a sovereign sexuality.  It is like meditation—a challenging and rewarding practice.

I am teaching CI and holding BraveSpace at a micro-festival/retreat called EmbodyFest that consciously engages with sexuality.  Check out the website—the video footage on the front page is pretty amazing:  Let it run past the food scenes and watch for the men pole dancing!  Frankly I’ve struggled over the years with my own judgment of sexualized dancing.  It has been a steep learning curve for me over the past few years as I’ve invited sexuality into my own dancing and teaching.  And, the more I drop my own neediness in favor of sovereignty, the more my judgments and resistance dissolve into joy and grace.  Brave Spaces for sovereign sexual expression are rare.  When I look at these videos on EmbodyFest’s website I see skill, respect, and creativity. I’m curious what you see–please write me back with your thoughts.

If you’d like to come to EmbodyFest let Mikka know I sent you for $50 off.  I’ll look forward to dancing boldly with you in the frame of sovereign sexuality.  And if you can’t make it but would like to explore this topic together more deeply please join the SomaWorks BraveSpace Facebook Group!